I've had nothing to say lately. That's why no blogging. I refuse to write just because I think I have to. As you may already know, ramblers bug the crap out of me. But I've got something to say now so lets dig in...

So my husband is in Kansas for two months working on a movie. I miss him a lot, y’all. It doesn't matter that we argue, fight and basically get on each others nerves like most married couples. The moment he's gone for any length of time I start to miss him. Why is that I wonder?

I was sitting here watching some TV the other day when some army wife came on. (She could have been a navy wife or a marine wife. I don't know, I didn't pay much attention until she started talking. You'll see why in a minute.) Apparently she's written a book about her experiences at home alone when her husband is deployed. Her contention is that we hear so much about supporting our troops, we forget that the wives and families left behind need support, too. Given my current situation, I can definitely relate. My man's only gone for a couple of months. Having your husband gone for months or years at a time must be very trying on a wife's spirit to say the least.

And then I thought about that. Its got to be pretty tough. That is, if you love each other. I mean, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but we just assume that every military couple separated by deployments is desperately in love and miss each other terribly. That every soldier’s wife is waiting patiently and lovingly for her husband to return to her open arms. But that's not the case all the time, is it?

I know a navy couple who got married because she got pregnant. They've travelled all over the world together as a family. I was so jealous of that for like a second. But then I learned that when he's gone, she's stepping out on him and he's stepping out on her. And I mean big time. And have been pretty much since the minster said "I now pronounce you husband and wife." How do you have a husband and a boyfriend? And be cool with it like that's how its supposed to be? If they were really ok with this wackness, they wouldn't be hiding it from the world. But, no. To add insult to injury, they front in front of folks like they're madly in love and can't wait to be together again. Come on, girl. Why you tryin' to play a sista?!!?

Then, of course, she wants to call me and complain about his deployments and then talk about her decision to cheat like she wants validation for her and her husband being trifling. (Not gone be able to do it.)

So I'm listening to this army lady talk about her experiences and I hate to say it but she starts getting on my nerves. She's like syrupy sweet with this cheerleader smile while she talks. Everything is said with this way-over-the-top positiveness. I'm just sitting there waiting for her to do a cartwheel and spell out all the great things about her husband using the letters in his name. (Mike, Mike, Mike, Mike. "M" is for mature. "I" is for interesting. "K" is for kind. "E" is for everlasting love.) After a few minutes all I want in the world is for her to stop talking. Ruben can stay in Kansas. Just shut this woman up.

She was so happy about everything that she reminded me of my ho-ish navy friend and her dog-like husband. Could this TV lady be frontin' to hide the real dirt behind the marriage scene? Do the couples that "act" the happiest have the most problems? I don't know about you but it makes me wonder.

Later that same day I watch this Law & Order in which these two wives get together to kill each others' husbands. But that's not the important part. Murder aside, it was interesting to me that when the cops question the first wife, she goes on and on about how happy her and her husband are, how much in love they are, how solid their marriage still is after seven years. And then the second wife does the exact same thing. Syrupy sweet...

Anyway, I wouldn't pay too much mind to any of this. I'm sure most military marriages and marriages in general are happy. I mean look at mine. I really do looooooooove my husband. (Cheerleader smile.) J